Amit Shindore's blog

Political View of an Aam Aadmi (An Ordinary Indian)

How much I just hate these words "Aam Aadmi" !!

Disclaimer : I don't hate the Gandhi / Nehru family or have nothing against the Congress Party.

Who is an Aam aadmi ? What is the criteria to be branded as an Aam Aadmi ? Is it financial status ? Is it social status ? Is it religion ? Is it Caste ? Is it Color ?

Honestly, I don't know. But (and this is a big BUT) No, I find this unacceptable. Am I an Aam Aadmi ? Are you an Aam Aadmi ? How can the Congress expect my vote after calling ‘someone’ an Aam Aadmi ? If I am the Aam Aadmi, they have actually insulted me by calling me Ordinary.

If indeed we are Aam, dear Congress, show us the way, and give us the support so that we become ‘khaas’ (Special)

The Shocking Congress Manifesto

The Congress on Tuesday promised it would enact a law to provide 25 kg of rice or wheat a month at Rs.3 per kg to families living below the poverty line (BPL) and expand schemes to improve the well being of farmers and their families.

Source : http://sify.com/news/fullstory.php?id=14874702

This is clearly a case of feeding fish here and not providing a fishing tackle to the population BPL (below poverty line)

It is not about who is doing this, but it’s a direct reflection of the value of Aam Aadmi and the ones who are below the poverty line.

To me, Congress is clearly challenging the dignity of us Indians by calling us Aam.

Dr. Manmohan Singh, you need not respond

The recent verbal duel (I wish this was face to face) between Dr. Manmohan Singh and L.K. Advani  was noteworthy.

L.K. Advani’s has been maintaining that Manmohan Singh is a powerless PM since 2004.

Dr. Manmohan Singh (the reserved, humble and a wise man) need not have and should not have retaliated at any point. He chose to do so recently and I personally think Mr. Singh, you got it all wrong.

Defend your dignity with deeds and not words.

So, my friends, dispassionate observers like me wonder if the political debate between Advani and Singh  is degenerating to the level of hitting below the belt.

I definitely trust the Congress more than the communalist BJP, the direction-less Third Front and the impotent Left Party.

But this time, Congress has got the campaigning wrong.

Thoughts please?!

Marriage ReDefined

Marriage : 

An incomplete system that needs to be redefined, enhanced with the changing times.

Why am i writing this ?

• As far as I have known, a rocky marriage cannot be repaired; ever. You cannot fall in love with the same man / woman you once were crazy for, again. The repair involves a lot of compromise. 

• Marriage is an important event in life and you want no stone unturned before you take the plunge. You do not want to land up with a wrong (not bad) person. This post will highlight on how to avoid a mismatch and in case of a mismatch discovered after marriage, how do you cope with it.

• This is primarily for parents looking for the best man / woman for their child.

• Because we have increasing number of divorce cases, extra-marital affairs. We have parents of both parties acccusing each other of misconduct.

We have laws favoring heavily towards women and men feeling alienated (scared) to voice their concerns. We have castes, religions and financial status and literacy levels (I do not call that education) as factors for arranged marriages. All this will be discussed in the next few posts. 

Like all great managers / leaders / entrepreneurs of the world plan disaster management for every big project, it is expected that parents (who are always supposed to know more) plan disaster management possibilities before marriage. Issues resulting out of incompatibility, for example.

Wishing a happy married life for their children is not enough. You need to give your children the security that "everything" has been taken care of. Everything, does not mean arranging their honeymoon suites and the destinations. It means if ever there is a realization of a mismatch beyond correction, its upto the parents to bring their child out of it peacefully. 

With times changing, marriage has transformed to what marriage "basically" is. An association of 2 individuals. With most men and women working these days, they prefer having a lifestyle of their own, it is important that parents understand that its much more than family backgrounds, wealth, class, caste, religion. Especially in an arranged marriage.

You cannot conclude that your children will have a happy marriage because the families are well-to-do, stable and belong to the same caste / religion.

Parents and Children need (or, are expected) to know the 'fundamental' differences between man and a woman. I am not going to get into what's already being ventured into by other well-known authors of the world. 

Parents, society tend to forget that The Human Being came naturally and Marriage was something that was introduced as a social practice. Their individual fundamental characteristics are important and need to be given priority. 

Marriage still is a great idea and practice. Marriage as a practice needs constant (not frequent) refinement. 

As Indians, everything we do has been corrective, not pro-active and preventive. Look at the roads for example, we make nice roads strips and in a couple of months we find a cable duct re-opened. Road-side constructions is another example. We allow people to construct next to the roads and after 10 years, the governing authorities perform a demolition drive to erase encroachment. 

Its high time we turned pro-active and preventive. Why not start with your marriage or your children who plan to get married in the near future ?

The bottom-line is, "Communicate all possibilities before the marriage and not after it"

Thoughts?